Category Archives: Mindfulness

Expanding Your Holiday HUB

This time of year, between Thanksgiving and the winter holidays can be filled with a wide range of feelings, from joy and gratitude to longing and loneliness. Many articles and blogs that come out around this time often address the challenges of family reunions, citing the many ways coming back together with family for the holidays can create intense and sometimes surprisingly negative emotional reactions. Here I’d like to offer a slightly different take on this theme of wintertime events.

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New Course: Presence, Integration, and the Cultivation of Well-Being in Relationships and Family Systems

This new course, launching on July 14 — and only available for a limited time — focuses on how making sense of our experiences and relationships shapes the way we interact with others and the world around us. Cultivating presence can help support important changes in neural structure that lead to integration, balance, happiness, and more rewarding and deeply connected relationships.

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The Art & Science of Living with Presence & Connection: A Special Training Retreat with Jack Kornfield, PhD and Dan Siegel, MD

Jack Kornfield and Dan Siegel will host a special retreat this January.

For the first time ever, Jack Kornfield and I will host a retreat for a small group in Santa Monica, California over the weekend of January 22-24, 2016. It will be a transformative, fun weekend, limited to 30 persons.

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Mindfulness As Integration

Mindful awareness can be considered as a way of being, more than something that involves our “doing” something. Engage a certain “state of mind” that has the range of qualities we have heard repeatedly even though there is no fixed and final definition of mindfulness: How we pay attention (different from awareness), on purpose (but it doesn’t have to be done with active effort, it can in fact be an intention that happens Continue reading

Thriving with the Power of Presence

Pictured: Arianna Huffington, Alanis Morissette, Dr. Dan Siegel, Jon Kabat-Zinn

Excited to join in the exploration of healthy ways of living at the upcoming conference, THRIVE, with Arianna Huffington and Mika Brzezinski.  Looking forward to discussing the importance of cultivating meaningful connections in this digital age with Arianna and Alanis Morissette.  Along with many others at this two-day event, including Katie Couric, mindfulness researcher Richie Davidson and songwriter Peter Himmelman, I look forward to immersing ourselves in the art and science of living a meaningful and compassionate life.  This is a gathering to explore Arianna’s call to action, beautifully expressed in her new book, Thrive: Continue reading

Changing the Cultural Conversation About Adolescence

Adolescence has a power and purpose much like a waterfall. We can’t stop the water from flowing, but we can learn to channel its force in ways that are helpful for all concerned. During adolescence, a period that runs roughly a dozen years into the mid-twenties, the brain is busy remodeling itself in order to create integration, the body changes with the onset of puberty, and a need for more independence with adults emerges.  Continue reading

The Self is Not Defined by the Boundaries of Our Skin

Recently, I’ve spoken at several conferences around the country about mindfulness in adolescents, attachment in families, and bringing more awareness and compassion to our digital lives.  One comment in particular that I made at each of these speaking engagements seemed to garner the most curiosity and attention.  The statement is this: The self is not defined by the boundaries of our skin.  Continue reading

3 Steps to Disconnecting from Our Phones and Reconnecting with our Teens

Three Steps to Disconnect

These days it’s hard to hang out with parents of teenagers without hearing disparaging comments about how digital devices are devouring our kids’ time and attention. Or how our driving adolescents are driving us mad when they text on the highway, risking life and limb for the sake of a quick LOL or WITW or OMG. All for the sake of what (SOW? I don’t think that one will catch on)? If I hadn’t myself sometimes fought the urge to check my own phone in response to that tempting buzzing sound, I’d find this pattern of repeated dangerous behavior something unique to the teen years.  Continue reading